Going through a divorce is undoubtedly one of life’s most challenging hurdles. It is natural to feel a range of emotions — some of them uncomfortably negative or centered on anger. The desire to dress your spouse down can be powerful, but it is essential to resist these urges.
Badmouthing your spouse during your divorce can have serious consequences, especially if you share children. Here are three compelling reasons to bite your tongue when tempted to let loose with your feelings towards your spouse.
It could impact child custody
Disparaging your spouse could be seen as an attempt to alienate the children from their other parent, whether your comments are true or false. Family courts view such behavior as harmful to the children’s emotional health and may question your ability to co-parent effectively.
It could harm your kids
Hearing negative remarks from one parent about the other often creates confusion, guilt and distress in children of divorce. Unfortunately, this can lead to long-term psychological issues for these children, such as antisocial behavior, emotional insecurity and chronic anxiety.
It could cause legal repercussions
All Virginia circuit courts may issue temporary injunctions. That means family court judges could issue an injunction preventing parents from engaging in unethical behavior, including disparaging remarks. Violations can result in penalties and additional child divorce complications.
While it can be tempting to lash out, remain civil and calm during legal proceedings and other settings. For instance, avoid making negative remarks about your spouse on social media or it could be used against you.
Consider seeking legal support for other ways to facilitate as smooth a Virginia divorce as possible.
