The following are three of the main questions that parents tend to ask. They can help you and your spouse get started if you’re considering a divorce and trying to plan ahead.
Staying together for the kids may be tempting because parents are often worried that a divorce will have a negative impact on them. But studies have found that children are very resilient, and can often adjust to divorce in time. Moreover, staying together in a high-conflict marriage may actually be worse for the children than getting divorced.
You need to be careful when talking to children about the divorce. Find a time when you can talk for as long as needed, and make sure you answer the children’s questions. Additionally, this is a conversation that you should have as a family – you, your spouse and all of your children together.
After you and your spouse separate, it is important to focus on routines. This can create some stability for the children. You also need to work on setting up your parenting schedule. It can sometimes help to talk to the children about what the schedule is going to look like and what to expect, although the amount of detail they need varies depending on their age.
These are just three questions to start with, but divorce can be very complex. The more you know, the more you can look into the legal options to put your children first.
]]>Their tendency to try to twist situations can make it hard to work through a divorce with a narcissist. If you’re navigating this particular challenging life transition, there’s a few tips you should keep in mind.
Leave emotions out of the process
One of the most important things to remember when you’re divorcing a narcissist is to avoid letting them see any type of emotion from you. When they can invoke emotions in others, they feel more powerful and will continue or increase their antics. It’s best to keep a professional demeanor throughout the divorce and anytime that you have to speak with them after.
Keep documentation of everything
Narcissists try to twist facts in an attempt to show things the way they seem them. It’s best to keep documentation of everything related to the divorce to show what’s going on if there’s a question about things. It’s critical to keep copies of all communication since that can be a primary source of contention when a narcissist is involved.
Set and uphold your boundaries
Another critical consideration is that you must set and uphold your boundaries. A narcissist will try to push any limits they’re given. Refusing to let that happen may anger the narcissist, but it’s essential to do this for your sanity.
Narcissists often try to prolong the divorce proceedings to increase costs so that the divorce becomes a financial hardship. Seeking legal guidance from someone who is familiar with narcissists may be beneficial.
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