Divorce can take a few months or well over a year. While complex assets may require more time to sort out, divorces often become lengthy because the spouses cannot agree.
It seems natural you would disagree with your spouse. If agreeing were easy, you would probably stay together. Yet, you will both need to agree in the end. If you cannot, a judge will tell you how things will be. As it is your life, not the judge’s, it is better to try and keep matters in your own hands.
The longer your divorce takes, the more it will cost
The first cost will be financial as you need to pay legal fees, and both need the services of a legal team to represent you. On top of that, the longer things take, the more time you will need to take off work for meetings or hearings. If you have kids, it may also require more paying someone to look after them so you can deal with your divorce.
Divorce also has a high emotional price. Not that staying in an unhappy marriage doesn’t. Yet, divorce is unlikely to be an enjoyable time, so the longer you are stuck in transition, the more prone you are to suffer the emotional consequences. The sooner you get it over with, the sooner you can start living a more enjoyable life on your own terms.
Does that mean I should just accept whatever my spouse wants to get divorced quickly?
Not at all. Getting legal help to understand your rights and what you can realistically expect allows you to decide when to compromise and when to stand firm.