No one would tell Virginia residents facing divorce not to feel the hurt, anger and other feelings associated with it, but if they can do the following, it may help refocus their energy on making sure to protect their rights and interests during the process:
- Anger is often felt when it comes to divorce, but it can be destructive – particularly if it is aggressive. Converting that emotion to assertiveness can help make sure a fair and equitable settlement is reached.
- Individuals should not allow themselves to feel like victims. It may seem as though there is no control over the situation, but when people begin being proactive and quit letting life happen to them, they may regain the feeling of control over their lives.
- The process may go more smoothly if individuals stop trying to control the other party, which will only make the situation worse. The only person anyone can really control is him or herself.
- A divorce settlement will come with some compromise — there is no way around it. When people focus too much on “getting their way,” the process will most likely not go smoothly.
It may seem difficult at first for anyone to take the steps above. However, doing so can help get everyone through the divorce process more smoothly, especially if there are children involved.
Anyone ending a marriage will need to confront his or her emotions at some point, but at the negotiating table or in the courtroom is not the place to do it. One way to help keep emotions out of the divorce process is to work with an experienced family law attorney. He or she can work with Virginia residents going through an admittedly challenging time in their life to help keep the ultimate goal in mind, which is reaching a satisfactory settlement.