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Divorcing parents can help children to cope with the process

Understandably, the process of getting divorced in Virginia can be challenging for both spouses involved. However, it can be just as trying for the children they share together. Fortunately, a couple of tips can help people who are going through divorce to make this process as easy as possible for their children.

First, it is wise for divorcing parents to try to maintain their same family routines for at least a year following the divorce. This includes routines involving friends, meal times and holidays, for example. This move can help to minimize the shock that typically results from the divorce process.

Second, divorcing parents would be wise to give their children validation, affirmations, cuddles and verbal assurances. In addition, they ideally should listen to their kids and give them the opportunity to express their feelings. Children sometimes worry that their parents will abandon them following the divorce process, and maintaining a firm connection with them may help to alleviate these concerns.

The ideal situation during a divorce proceeding involving children is for both parents to work to create a parenting agreement that satisfies both parties. Generating this agreement outside of court can help the family to avoid further court intrusion. However, if the two parents cannot work out their child custody and/or visitation issues, a judge will have to make decisions regarding these matters for them. Either way, an attorney in Virginia can help a divorcing parent to pursue an outcome that is ultimately in his or her best interests, as well as the best interests of the children.